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Perfect Parenting: What Kids Actually Need From You

What Your Kids Actually Need From You

What exactly is perfect parenting?

This involves what you should do and what you should avoid as a parent, which will make you look back at how your parenting journey has been, and be proud you tried well enough.

Currently, many parents are living together with their children in the same house without an existing bond.

That is the kind of family where people are insensitive to one another’s needs and just go about their business without looking out for one another. Such is not to be heard of any family in which the parents take the necessary measures to enhance affection between them and their kids in the right ways.

There are certain expressions that most kids find hard to say. Take a look at these;

  1. I want to be loved and feel loved…
  2. I want to be heard. If only you understand me…
  3. I need to be guided, I’m not perfect…
  4. It hurts when you compare me with my mates…
  5. I’m not poor in my academics, I just need a home tutor…
  6. My fears seem to be having a tight grip on me…
  7. I feel I’m being bullied in this neighborhood…
  8. Mom, Dad, at least I tried my best…
  9. Don’t compare me with my other siblings, I feel inadequate when you do so…

Taking the above statements into deep thought, it is obvious that most parents aren’t actually giving their children the privilege of pouring out their thoughts. Don’t always be in a hurry to shun them.

Research has shown that so many young adults had a hard time growing up, not because some of their needs weren’t met, but because they didn’t seem to have enough mental and psychological connection with their parents.

A percentage of these young adults are battling depression currently and some have committed suicide while the rest are striving to build a life for themselves.
It is an indisputable fact that things go wrong when parents don’t take a look into the general well-being of their children.

Easy steps to facilitate bonding with your children include;

a) Something as little as hugging your children before bedtime and after they wake up goes a long way to make them understand that their presence in the family is not something worth taking for granted. During the day also create scenarios that will enable you to rub their shoulders and pat their backs.

b) Laughing together is not something to be ignored. Parenting doesn’t always require rigidity. Sharing a couple of lighter moments helps in building some great memories.

c) Interacting with them about their needs and the way they decide to meet them is also a good start. Ask questions concerning the decisions they want to make and know where to come in with suggestions and pieces of advice.

d) Check out for moments when they are likely to open up about their fears and worries. If those moments are difficult to come by, create them. It may baffle you what your child has stored in his/her heart about things you don’t even know. You may want to get them relaxed at bedtime and listen to them. If you feel that is not a good enough time for that, then consider an outdoor moment when you can get yourselves relaxing under the warmth of nature’s beauty. Acknowledge their feelings and reassure them that you simply are there for them to deal with their problems.

e) Set Aside Quality Time for Your Children: It’s frequently challenging for parents and children to get together for a family feast, not to mention hang out, and this is something children desire. Create extra time by waking up a few minutes earlier toward the beginning of the day so you can have breakfast with them or leave the dishes in the sink and go for a stroll after an evening snack.

Plan a “together time” with your children. Make a “unique evening” every week to be together and allow your children to assist with choosing how to invest energy. Put a note or something uniquely amazing in your child’s lunchbox.

f) Discipline and guidance: There is a part of children that calls for guidance and direction even in little things you feel they can handle on their own. It is at this point that you should give it to them and in the most loving way. Furthermore, disciplining a child means teaching your child what is regarded as a good mode of conduct and acceptable behavior. A child’s intellectual ability develops over time. It’s important to match the discipline of your child together with your child’s capacity and knowledge.

Teaching children self-discipline may be a demanding task. It requires patience, thoughtful attention, cooperation, and an honest understanding.

Try not to feel bad about how tasking parenting can be. It is the numerous little things you do for and with them that they will recall. In the end, you’ll see it was worth all the effort.

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